The terrible two stage

Terrible two stage

 

Hi guys,

 

So, I’m finding myself in a situation where Zia is testing every bit of me every moment she gets and it’s not your typical little cry, oh no, it’s your loud screeching, rolling on the floor, shouting, knocking her head, I want it now cry. I swear our neighbours are thinking we murdering our kids. I remember the first time she did it, a couple of weeks ago, we all were gob smacked with shock. The same happened when my sister and my father in law came to visit on separate occasions.

They couldn’t believe this child was behaving in this manner. Older people will say it’s just she is just plain naughty, I agree to an extent but how else would they convey their needs and wants. Now, with all this happening, my Tazkia is just a breeze. She tries her tantrums but it’s easier to distract her from what she wanted.

 

The most frustrating part is that she wouldn’t let Zahir console her. He can’t lay be Zia, pick her up. He can’t even hand her bottle to her. That’s how much she doesn’t want him to do anything for her, which means, I have to do it all.

I’ve tried everything, consoling her, giving her a few slaps on her nappy butt, talking to her, ignoring her, even let her calm down in the room… nothing works when she is in this mood. I like to believe that it’s a phase and that she won’t embarrass me in a mall {wishful thinking}, we are yet to find out whether she will throw a tantrum in a mall. 

I have to say though that when she isn’t being Miss Tantrum she can be super sweet and cute and happy.

 

Its the children’s job to test their parents, as hard and long as they can, its how we as parents choose to deal with it.

 

Tell me, have you gone through this phase and how did you handle it?

 

Cheers

4 Comments
  1. I know exactly what your going through. Azhar is doing the same thing and so strong willed she screatches and my worst nightmare can true last week in checkers. A screaming fit and they arent even 2 yet

    • Oh gosh that must have been so awkward, and you don’t know how to deal with it yet, like we don’t yet know what works. So its hard. Thanks for commenting 🙂

  2. I can totally relate. My daughter is 18 months and she does exactly what you’ve described. I’m clutching at the concept of terrible twos even though she’s not two yet :'( I find distraction to be the only way out. I also noticed that when I show the opposite emotion to a tantrum that she stops a little bit I.e hugging her and saying nice things. But in the midst of a major tantrum -with a very heavy heart- I find that food is a good deterrent (and my only salvation at that point). Something sweet (if u don’t give them sweets then the Florida natural fruit range is a must have in those dire times) I always just keep something enticing in my bag for those moments. Hope this helped. We all just learn as we go along and so nice to know that we’re not alone in our challenges. xx

    • Yes it has thank you for your response. I can entice the girls with sweets or sweet things like biscuits and fruit which I do but we are so scared their teeth is going to get rotten and also what do they learn if we keep accommodating them. But then again saying no also doesn’t help because it projects negatively to them. So its a lose lose situation lol. We will keep trying and through trial and error we ourselves learn what works for our kids because each child is different and every situation is different too

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