How to find ‘ME TIME’ as a Mom

Most times I go through life and motherhood without thinking of myself. We all do it, we sacrifice for the greater good of your family. My family takes up a lot of my time, amongst being a career woman, a wife and a blogger. Being a woman should actually come first. Taking care of myself, because if I don’t take of myself how am I expected to take care of my children, husband and career. I’ve been trying to make myself a priority by applying the following. This month we are celebrating WOMEN and hopefully this post will help you to make yourself a priority.

Wake up before everyone else does

This is very hard to do especially if you have had long nights with sick children or you have a deadline that must be met. I feel like this is vital though, getting that few minutes in where you can be alone and just be. Or plan the day and prepare lunch and drink your coffee in peace. Maybe get in that last minute workout. Set a time frame that’s ideal for you. Lots of women say 5:30 is the ideal time. Whatever time suits you best.

Do something for yourself when the kids go to bed

If waking up earlier is not your thing then maybe having some me time when all the kids are asleep. This requires a bit of planning. Like the kids must go to bed at a set time and it must be early, and a routine is implemented which takes time. So maybe, try and get a routine going for a few months before having your me time. Although I’m sure at this point moms have routines set from birth already so that won’t be an issue. You will reap the rewards of me time when your routine is set and your kids are fast asleep.

Sometimes it’s okay to include your kids into me time

Yes you heard me. Create me time where your kids can be involved. I regard working out as me time too. So I try and incorporate exercises where the kids can join me. I love dancing workouts and Tazkia absolutely loves doing those workouts with me.

Make yourself a priority

This is another thing that can be hard because life and because there is so much to do and so little time. But Abieda how can I make myself a priority? Simple

  • It’s okay to say no sometimes, you don’t always have to please people.
  • Get enough sleep, yes you heard me.
  • Find your balance, by this I mean there should be a balance between mom life, work life and self-care. How can you look after the people that you love if you aren’t looking after yourself?

Budget a monthly treat

You work hard so you should totally budget some money for a treat every month. No matter how big or small. Retail therapy is a fantastic way of making yourself a priority. How many times have you looked at a pair of jeans and then looked at vests for your child and go with the vest instead of the jeans. More times than not I’m sure. I’ve done it plenty of times. I’d rather spend that extra money that I may have on my kids than on me. So now I dedicated a certain amount of money that I spend on myself each month. I’m obsessed with make-up and body care. So when I’m in the shower lathering up my body with my new shower oil that I bought with the money I dedicated to treating myself, that feeling just makes everything else seem worth it. It’s the little things sometimes.

Find help

I’ve never been one to feel embarrassed about asking for help. Whether it’s my in-laws or sisters. They are always eager to help because they know I don’t do it often and they know parenting little children is hard and we all need a break sometimes. I’m one of the lucky ones that has a support system whereby I can rely on. I know that not everyone has that support. I have a reliable and awesome nanny that looks after my kids. One I can trust and have been with me for a while. Thing is though, you won’t know until you ask, you never know if your family and friends will be eager to help until you ask. I’m sure they want to see you happy and succeed.

Schedule ‘me time’

Plan. Plan. Plan. Yes you need to. Plan that hair appointment that you so desperately need. Or set a time to spend sookie-sookie time with your husband. This is vital especially for people who have little children and everything can be chaotic but also everything needs to be planned so that the chaos is lessened and you have breathe and be happy.

Schedule in time to put on make-up and do your hair

I get it when you are always rushing to get the kids done and yourself done, you literally just want to get it over with and leave. I struggle with this too. There is always something that must be done first. I try to get the kids done first like packing a bag and feeding the little one, making sure the girls brush their hair and teeth etc. I spend some time showering and applying my make-up. I keep the make up in the bathroom for easy access. I make sure that I do my skincare routine daily after showering and then the make – up straight after. I absolutely love moisturizers and I find moisturizing my body to be relaxing and pampering.

Go on date nights

Date nights are a great way to spend time with your significant other. I’m guilty of not initiating it more. Money always plays a factor for us. We don’t always have that extra spare change to go on date nights. But really it’s not what you do but rather that you spend the time together. Right?

Some suggestions for date nights:

  • When all the kids are asleep, watch a movie and take out the snacks and watch a movie together
  • Take a walk on the beach
  • Have a picnic at your favourite spot
  • Go for coffee at a cute coffee shop

Re-connect with your girlfriends

How many of you have been going through life, just with your family and find yourself with something missing…. That connection you and your closest girlfriends had before you had children. How many of you decline having your friends over because your house is a mess and you don’t want your friends to see that you don’t have your shit together? How many of you have friends who have never even seen your kids yet? Well it’s never too late. Make that call. Don’t decline the next time your friend asks to see you. Re-connect, you need the support. You need someone who can just listen, that can laugh or cry with you and that will tell you that its going to be alright. Don’t feel bad though because life happens. I’m guilty of all these things too. Making time for your girlfriends is vital for your well-being and sanity.

If you go onto my  Splendid Ink  website you will be able to plan your me time better with my weekly planners, to do lists, grocery list, recipe sheet and lots more. Hopefully by the time you read this post, my website will be live. #supportwomen #supportlocal #splendidink

Let me know what you do for me time. Do you have a pamper routine? Do you still see your old friends?

 

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